A Young Father Reflects

Young Fatherhood.

People love to hear about being a young father, and I don’t really know why.  Maybe it’s because people don’t usually talk too much about it, and some people are even ashamed of it?  I don’t know, but whatever the reason is, that’s why you’re here isn’t it?  Comment below and let me know what it is about young fatherhood that intrigues you.

Here I am, doing the same things as any other father, except I’m younger.  I wake up happy, next to my daughter every morning.  Yes, that’s true.  I’ll admit it’s not the best habit to get your child into, but we started with her sleeping in our bed, and now it’s very hard to break the pattern.  I really have no complaints about her sleeping in my bed at all.  I wake up and she’s the first thing I see.  There is nothing better than that.  Maybe it’s us, the parents, who are accustomed to the taboo habit, but either way, that’s how it is right now.Do You Wanna Build A Snowman Toddler Life

Anyway, the older she gets, the more I judge my actions in the past, and I’ve come to realize, I am so grateful that I made the decision to have a child at such a young age.  While it may have been hectic and frustrating at the time, we worked hard every day, and got ourselves to a much better place because of it.  There are a number of reasons why its better to have a kid when you’re young. 

I was 19 when my daughter was born, which isn’t actually that young.  Yes, it has that badly sounding “teen” at the end of the number, but it’s not what America has gotten used to watching on reality TV.  I was old enough to understand what I was doing, and take action accordingly.  Some good things that the essence of my daughter has brought to my life have been, greater understanding of the world around me, she keeps me out of trouble, and she keeps me motivated to work hard day in and day out.  What else can do that for you at the young age of 19? Comment below.

Better understanding of tIMG_8621he world around me

It is true what they say about loving your child.  When you have a child of your own, you love them more than any other thing in the universe that has ever existed.  You start to understand the world around you as a different place.  You start to think of how you can make the world a better place, instead of just living in this giant place, you want to do whatever you can to fix it, add to it, or leave your impression.  I can’t be here forever, and I need to know that my daughter lives in a better world when I leave. 

 The L word is thrown around so much in today’s society, but one does not fully understand the word until they have a child.  I truly believe that.  -Ryan Kearns

Keeps me out of trouble

There is no explanation truly needed for this section.  People that are my age tend to get in trouble a lot.  They party hard, trash their college campuses, drive drunk, and a slew of other unnecessary evils take up most of their free time.  Instead of being a part of the crowd, I have a reason to be at home working hard, and spending time with my loved ones.  As of right now, I find it impossible to spend too much time with my daughter.  I’ll keep you updated on that. Haha

Motivates Me

I would not do half the things I’ve done this far without my daughter at my side.  She gives me something to work hard for.  I’m not just referring to working hard at my job, I am talking about going after my dreams.  One day, I’ll tell my daughter that she has to pursue her dreams and her passions.  How can I tell her to do that, if I sell out myself, and give up on mine?  I can’t, which means I will always pursue my passions as an example, and as a father.

Being young really has nothing to do with it.  People rise to the occasion.  Next time you see a young parent in the grocery store, or in town, instead of shooting them a dirty look like they did something wrong, why don’t you give them a compliment like, “You’re doing a great job, keep up the good work.”  We all deserve appreciation in this world, and everyone knows, being a parent is hard work.

Ryan Kearns and Adelyn on a bench at the park.  Having a fantastic day outside

Ryan Kearns and Adelyn on a bench at the park. Having a fantastic day outside

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